By Kevin Casin, PhD, Former Student Life Program Assistant
Note: This week’s post is from our archives and written by our former program assistant. Many of us are facing both giants and windmills today (as described below). Whatever you’re facing, Student Life is here to support you!
I (Kevin) have a habit of making small challenges into giants, something we all might do from time to time. I invite you to examine the challenges and see them for what they really are; a blip in the road. Making a mountain out of a mole hill is extremely common and can often be a tremendous source of stress. In the story of Don Quixote, a deluded old man, believing that he is a knight out to correct the wrongs of the world, charges at a giant in his path. With his lance in hand and his faithful stead, he challenges the giant only to find that it nothing more than a windmill. A frantic Sancho, Don’s loyal squire, races towards him and tries to reason with the old man. Sancho gets nowhere because Don is convinced that there are mystic forces opposing his righteous plight. Despite the pleas of Don’s most trusted friend, there is nothing that can be done to bring him out of his delusion. Allow me to be your Sancho. Few things in this world are that big. Sometimes, it’s just a windmill and you can handle this!
“Pray look better, Sir… those things yonder are no giants, but windmills.”
– Miguel de Cervantes
Here a few strategies to help you to discern windmills from giants:
1) Experimental Method: Turn your negative thoughts into an experiment and test them out. Use the scientific method and reason with your negative thoughts. Develop a hypothesis, ask questions and collect the evidence, then draw conclusions based on the evidence. Did you come up with a giant? Give it a try! We are all scientists here!
2) Survey Method: Consult with your support group (i.e. trusted friends and family) if your thoughts are realistic. Objective, and trustworthy, perspectives can be valuable. Of course get these perspectives from trusted people. Asking someone just hanging out a bus stop might not be the best idea, but a trusted friend or family member can be very helpful. Sometimes all we need is some perspective.
3) See Attached Document! Some issues require us to work through them in a more detailed way. Coping with Dilemmas by Russ Harris provides additional steps/perspectives for working through nagging dilemmas.